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Bila A bertemu B

April 6, 2009


“I’m so tired.”

“Tired of what?”

“Of all these people judging me.”

“Who judged you?”

“Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab.”

“Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!”

“Yeah! I listen to music without hijab…haha!”

“Maybe she was just giving you advice.”

“I don’t need her advice. I know my religion. Can’t she mind her own business?”

“Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice.”

“Keeping out of my business, that would be nice…”

“But it’s her duty to encourage you do to good.”

“Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean `good` ?”

“Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do.”

“Says who?”

“It’s in the Quran, isn’t it?”

“Yes. She did quote me something.”

“She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Quran.”

“Yes, but it’s not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important.”

“True. But big things start with small things.”

“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.”

“What you wear is not important?”

“That’s what I said.”

“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?”

“What do you mean?”

“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.”


“So, your appearance IS important.”

“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.”

“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Noble Quran?”

“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Quran.”

“You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?”

“Yes. God is forgiving.”

“God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes.”

“Says who?”

“Says the same book that tells you to cover.”

“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.”

“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?! What’s your definition of freedom anyway?”

“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.”

“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do.”

“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people.”

“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point.”

“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.”

“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God.”

“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!”

“So all these people with hijab never get married?!”

“Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn’t like it? And wants me to remove it?”

“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!”

“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.”

“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?”

“But then who would hire me?”

“A company that respects people for who they are.”

“Not after 9-11”

“Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school? And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab…ummm…”


“Yes. Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.”

“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?”

“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?”

“You didn’t answer my question.”

“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight pants…”

“That’s called `fashion`, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women.”

“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.”

“Yes. That’s what it is.”

“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?”

“Well, that’s different.”

“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab…she was a woman, right?”

“Right, but…”

“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!”

“Wait, let me finish, I was saying…”

“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?”


“Specifically how?”

“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!”

“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be`attractive’ ?”

“Of course, it’s fashion.”

“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?”


“Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.”

“What do you mean?”

“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.”

“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.”

“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men…and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.”

“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?”

“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism. ”

“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB! It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society …Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!”

“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.”


Nay! You prefer the life of this world; While the hereafter is better and more lasting. [Noble Quran 87:16-17]

You are the best community (Ummah) raised up for (the benefit of) humanity; enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah. [Noble Quran 3:110]


p/s: fully from serambidakwah

7 Comments leave one →
  1. April 6, 2009 04:00

    Wahh…this is good…can i just copy and paste it in my blog?hehe.

  2. ZaliZabrina permalink*
    April 6, 2009 19:04

    hehe, sy pon copy paste la..
    no prob for me 🙂

  3. April 6, 2009 20:04

    Thank sis…thank you so much.

  4. ZaliZabrina permalink*
    April 7, 2009 00:25

    please, don’t mention it.. 😀

  5. April 7, 2009 08:58

    Done. 🙂 but with a twist on the title 🙂
    Later, Sis.
    I’ve been online for 20 hours.
    Gotta to catch some sleep.
    Take care.

  6. sara permalink
    March 1, 2010 14:09

    Are you kidding me? That is the most specious and disingenuous propaganda I have seen today after Googling ‘hijab’.

    First of all, magazines catering to women, and cosmetics companies are not run by men, they are for the most part, run by women!

    Second, there is NO passage in the Koran that says GOD demands women wear hijab. NONE! It is a falsehood promoted by men. If you walk down the street without covering your hair and a man has lustful thoughts, who is at fault? YOU for walking or HE for having sexual thoughts?

    I am amazed that Muslim women accept this burden. Are Muslm men not strong enough to control their own urges? Why is it hat all the advertisements for the sale of hijab show a woman with a scarf and a large amount of cosmetic to enhance her lips and eyes? hippocracy!

  7. ZaliZabrina permalink*
    March 14, 2010 02:14

    First of all, thanks for your comment.

    2nd of all, I don’t know you. I don’t know your religion and what you’ve been believing your whole life.
    So I’m gonna answer you with wider perspectives, if you don’t mind.

    Islam is not based on al-Quran(as you said Koran) only. It is based on Al-Quran and as-Sunnah(which means the words and actions or example of the Prophet of Islam, Muhammad.)

    I will give you the verse from Quran saying about covering aurah(parts of your body that should be covered)..
    An-Nur, 4: 30-31

    30. Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.

    31. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! Turn ye all together towards Allah that ye may attain Bliss.

    Here, it doesn’t say anything about covering our hair, but in Islam we have learned that we can’t translate everything in al-Quran according to our judgment only. We have to ask for people with more knowledge in al-Quran about what is truely hidden in al-Quran verses, as the words are from our GOD, and the language is High Standard Arabic, which absolutely can’t be fully understood just by reading that verse.

    We have to have other knowledge too. About as-Sunnah and Hadith(also included in as-Sunnah; meaning, words and deeds of prophet Muhammad and his accompanies)
    From there we know how to cover our aurah, which is wearing hijab, veil or whatever you call it, and cover our hair and also our breasts(bosoms), and body parts that we should cover.

    You have to know, Allah first instructed men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty, BEFORE He ordered women for the same action. Then only He asked them to cover their aurah, as stated above.

    Why? Because men’s sexual desires are way higher than women due to their hormone ‘testosterone’. It’s a common medical fact. Plus, women have more attractive parts of the body compared to men.

    If two people were having pre-marital sex, and they had accidentally pregnant, whose fault is that? Is it man’s? Or woman’s? Of course you’ll say they’re BOTH at fault for not taking precautions.

    Same with this matter.

    If you say men are guilty for having sexual thoughts towards woman, why is it can’t be woman’s fault for making them aroused and having sexual thoughts only by looking at them?

    If you say, your hair can’t possibly make them aroused, are you really sure?

    You have to ask the pro, ie. MEN.
    Ask a man in front of two woman. One with FULLY covering and one with no covering.
    Which one of them can possibly make the man feel aroused JUST BY LOOKING AT THEM.

    And then, see the personality between woman with fully covering and woman with no covering.
    Compare their personality.
    How they walk, how they talk, how they look.

    You see, Islam doesn’t ask people to cover their aurah without any reason. Because what we wear defines our personality. Covering aurah would generate good and respectful personality.
    For example, how can a woman wearing hijab drinks alcohol? Or go to pub?

    Of course, people have the right to choose. Some maybe choose to wear hijab, but still do wild things. But that doesn’t mean Islam is at fault. Because maybe these people just don’t understand why they wear hijab. They go with the flow. Anything can happen if you don’t fully believe and understand, and yet only going with the flow.

    As for ‘who controls the cosmetics’ thing, I know it’s basically woman because that’s what you see in cosmetics and fashion industry.
    The problem is, who do you think decided the definition of ‘beautiful’ regarding woman?
    Wasn’t it man?They wanted you to look like this and like that. So eventually woman creates the definition of ‘beauty’ by creating cosmetics and fashion. It’s a reality that have been pushed to you since before you were born. Please think the big picture here.

    Ask yourself again, who decides what is WOMAN’S BEAUTY?
    Who do you wanna look beautiful to?

    I know you have so many questions, but I don’t necessarily have all the answer.
    So please ask around. Maybe you’ll find your answer.

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